"It has to make you sick"
Well, no.. it actually didn't... Even though several people told me so.
Over the holidays, I had a young driver tap my back bumper and knock me into the hitch of the vehicle in front of me. So, my mustang has a little damage on it. Ok...
I believe that our life is an expression of who we are. Even though we are not able to completely control everything that happens in life, we need to take responsibility for our role. We have a significant role in the entire equation. We can make a bad situation better and a good situation great! Or, even the other direction.
So no, it doesn't 'have' to make me sick. I can choose to see the bigger picture. And, that is exactly what I did. I was perfectly fine during and after the entire thing. Now, I am not saying that I was never upset at all. That's just silly. My first was reaction was 'awe man, I just got hit. Oh crap, I'm going to hit the car in front of me... "
You cannot control every thought that happens in your mind. I'm not even going to pretend like you can. I will say that you can control what you dwell upon. You just have to know the trick.
Almost immediately, I changed my perspective. I thought the entire situation through till the end. I saw myself a year from then. The car was fixed and everyone was fine. I would barely even remember it happening. Also, I kept the bigger situation in mind. While almost everyone else was acting like they were in a bit of shock, I was able to help talk to everyone to regain a calm state.
What I felt the best about the whole thing was at the very end. Thinking clearly enough, I reminded the very young driver that "Experience is what life is all about." I meant it too. My hopes are that he takes this experience and learns from it. If he does, that could be the thing that saves him from getting into a very terrible accident. Maybe it saved a life or two. Who knows?
My point of the whole thing is that you can control your emotional state, think clearly and make the best possible choices in every situation.
Learn to see things from a different perspective and improve the quality of your life. No matter what other people say you are supposed to think and feel, you are in control of you. Its not about controlling every thought. Its about controlling what thoughts you dwell on.
Your life.... your mind.... your choices...